JOY

I have
these three letters J – O – Y that I have used to decorate my home at Christmas
time for the last few years.  They are
about 2 ½ feet high and more than a foot wide. 
I painted them a shiny burgundy color to match my decor.  The first year I had them we lived in
Colorado and I stood them up on my mantel above the fire place.  Last year when we started to decorate for
Christmas at our home in Louisiana, I realized I didn’t have a good place to
display them inside.  I was determined to
get them up, because they are an amazing reminder to me of the real meaning of
Christmas.  My sweet husband and father
rigged a billboard out of the side of a bookcase that was broken during our
move and hung it with twine on the side of the house near the front door.  Then, I gave the letters a fresh coat of
outdoor paint and velcroed them to the board. 
 Why Velcro you ask? Well, who
knows where we will be living this time next year or how I will be forced to
display them!  

 

I have
shared my JOY with friends, and even loaned it to one of them for her Christmas
display while her husband was home for R&R that year.  It is proudly positioned for people who drive
by to see and those who visit generally have questions about how it is hung,
what it’s made of and what kind of paint I used.  It is currently my cover photo on Facebook
and once I actually pinned a picture of it to Pinterest as a decorating
idea.  I was in a mild state of panic one
year when I couldn’t find my JOY.  It is
so apparent how much these letters mean to me that last year one of my
wonderful neighbors covered my JOY in plastic to protect it from a rainstorm. 

 

Keeping
with the theme, our Christmas card this year says, “Joy to the world the Lord
is come!”  I’m sure you’ve heard the song
before. First published in 1719, it is one of the most popular Christmas hymns
of all time.  But did you know that the
English hymn writer, Isaac Watts, originally intended the lyrics to glorify the
second coming of Christ, not His virgin birth we usually associate it with this
time of year?

Even
before Jesus came to earth, the bible spoke of the Joy of the Lord.  It is no surprise that this kind of joy
brought the people of the old testament strength or that the people of Judah
were reminded that they should celebrate His love and forgiveness.

After
having been in exile in Babylon for 70 years, in 538 BC the Jews began
returning to Judea to rebuild the temple. 
One of the great leaders of the bible, Nehemiah brought two groups of
Israelites from Babylon to return to Jerusalem with the mission of rebuilding
the wall of protection around the city. 
However, he was more concerned with the restoration of the people’s
spiritual protection than the symbolic physical protection the wall provided
them.  To this end, he collaborated with
Ezra to teach them the Law as it was originally written.  In 443 B.C., the month after construction on
the wall was completed, Ezra read the Law to the people and upon hearing it,
they wept because of the conviction they felt over their own sin.  But Nehemiah wanted them to take away another
message; one of God’s continual restoration, that God loved them no matter what
their sin and desired to have a meaningful relationship with them.  Ezra, Nehemiah and the priests whose
teachings caused the people to lament over their inability to keep the law
encouraged them saying, “Go your way, eat the fat, drink the sweet, and send
portions to those for whom nothing is prepared; for this day is holy to our
Lord.  Do not sorrow, for the joy of the
Lord is your strength.” Nehemiah 8:10.  Despite
the sin that caused God to exact punishment upon them in the form of a
Babylonian conquering, God had allowed them to return to Jerusalem and blessed
them by making a way for the rebuilding of their great city.

 

We
have reason to celebrate because of God’s unfailing love for us, too.  No matter how we disobey His commands, we
always have the opportunity to repent, to turn away from that sin, and rebuild
our relationship with Him.  It is that
relationship that provides the eternal protection that no wall of stones can.

 

About 450 years after Nehemiah encouraged the people of
Jerusalem to embrace the Joy of the Lord, others found this joy in different
way.  Matthew 2:10 says, “When they saw
the star, they rejoiced with exceedingly great joy.”   This star was the star that pointed the wise
men to the place of our Savior’s birth that very first Christmas.  They first looked for Jesus, the King of the
Jews, in Jerusalem, but were disheartened when they were unable to find Him
there.  They turned to Herod who gathered
all the priests and scribes to determine from the scriptures where the Christ
was to be born.  Herod, desiring to kill
this “King of the Jews” because he was threatened by the presence of a new
ruler in his domain, asked the wise men to search for Jesus in Bethlehem and
report back his location.  When the wise
men left Herod, they once again saw the star and followed it to the Christ
Child. 

These verses from Matthew 2:1-12 provide an interesting
parallel for us today.  Religious leaders
who had fallen away from God’s plan, were leading others astray and would
ultimately crucify the Savior, still found truth in the scriptures.  Political leaders who had no interest in
actually following Jesus claimed to be seeking to worship Him.  Wise men found joy and encouragement in a
star that led them into the presence of our Savior.  Are you being led astray by people who claim
to know God, but aren’t preaching His Truth? 
Are you prepared to accept Jesus as your King even if it means a loss of
self or position?  Are you seeking to
enter into His presence through true worship? 
No matter what others say or do, truth is The Word of God, worship is
the way to seek Him and true JOY is found in the presence of the Lord.

According
to Jewish Law, only the high priest was able to come into the presence of the
Lord in the Most Holy Place and then only once a year was he allowed behind the
curtain where the tabernacle of the Lord was kept.  This was the day of atonement and he
sprinkled the blood of a bull and a goat in order to symbolically cleanse the
people of their sins.  But they weren’t
truly clean as evidenced by the fact that only the High Priest could ever enter
into the Most Holy.  But now for us,
Jesus has cleansed us from our sin, every sin, those committed in the past,
those we commit daily, and even those we will commit in the future.  On the day of His death, “Jesus cried out
again with a loud voice, and yielded up His spirit.  Then, behold, the veil of the temple was torn
in two from top to bottom.” Matthew 27:50-51. 
By His death, each of us have gained access to the Most Holy place and been
granted permission to come into the presence of God.  David’s words point to the path of eternal
life and confirm where we will find true JOY, when he wrote, “You will show me
the path of life; in Your presence is fullness of joy; at your right hand are
pleasures forevermore.”  Psalm 16:11.

With
the death and resurrection of Jesus we can enter into the presence of God at
any time we choose.  This is where we
find fullness of JOY, this is where He will show us the paths of life, the ways
we should walk, how we should act and what we should and shouldn’t do.  For our salvation, we must accept and believe
in Jesus as our Savior, but to enter into His presence we must repent of our
sins in our hearts and show a willingness to be molded by Him in order to
receive His fullness of joy and pleasures forevermore.

I recently read an article entitled Private
Worship: The Key to Joy by Nancy Missler which concludes with the following
thought:

“Please bear in
mind, since we are not under the Law, we can, in fact, worship the Lord as
little or as much as we like.  It doesn’t
change our salvation.

What is affected
by our lack of daily encounters with the living God, is our personal
relationship with Him – the intimacy we might enjoy, the joy we might
experience as a result of His touch, the insights and revelations He might
extend, the godly strength we might receive enabling us to get through our
trials quicker and finally, the ability we might have in order to reflect His
image, His Love and not our own for the rest of the day.  Truly, worship is the most important thing a
Christian can learn to do!”

The author also says earlier in the article that “True
worship, then is contingent upon our offering ourselves as a living sacrifice
and God cleansing our flesh and spirit. 
In other words, our heart condition matters more in worship than our
voice, our good intentions or our actions. 
Without a cleansed heart, we simply cannot enter His presence or
worship.”  Psalm 24:3-5 says, “Who may
ascend into the hill of the Lord?  Or who
may stand in His holy place? He who has clean hands and a pure heart, who has
not lifted up his soul to an idol, nor sworn deceitfully.  He shall receive blessing from the Lord and
righteousness from the God of his salvation.” 
How is the condition of your heart? Are you prepared to enter into the
presence of the Lord and worship Him? Or are you harboring sin where He wishes
to place JOY?

Before he was betrayed, Jesus gives his disciples some
encouraging words in John 16:20 “Most assuredly, I say to you that you will
weep and lament, but the world will rejoice; and you will be sorrowful, but
your sorrow will be turned into joy.”  He
goes on in John 16:22 to tell them, “Therefore you now have sorrow; but I will
see you again and your heart will rejoice, and your joy no one will take from
you.”  So, while much of the world
rejoiced at the death of Jesus, His followers were sorrowful, but at His
resurrection, their weeping was turned to JOY. 
This is the Joy we will celebrate in a few short months at Easter.  The world, in an attempt to hold on to the
idea that they were right in killing Jesus, attempts to explain away His
resurrection, to diminish His deity and to denounce His teachings.  Much of the world seeks to find their joy in
the things of this world, but followers of Jesus can be certain of their
eternal JOY because of His death and resurrection.  We can claim that fullness of JOY in the
presence of the Lord when we approach Him with clean hands and a pure heart,
not deceiving ourselves but believing the truth of His Word. 

We may
find happiness in the world, but real JOY comes from a right relationship with
the Lord.  We can lose our happiness in
this world and still have the JOY of the Lord. 
JOY is independent of the harried hustle and bustle of the season.  JOY cannot be found in giving or receiving the
perfect gift.  JOY does not come from
running out for that one last thing you just can’t live without.  JOY is not encountered in a Pinterest-worthy
meal, the perfect outfit for pictures or a desert your family will rave about
for years to come.  JOY does not come by
hosting or attending Holiday parties every night of the week.  The JOY I seek is not only that which came to
us when Mary and Joseph welcomed the Son of God to this world, but also the JOY
that will come to those who believe in Him at His return.  The JOY of the Lord can exist within us
despite our circumstances here on earth. 
We may have sorrow here, but no one and nothing can take away our JOY.
 In order to experience this kind
of JOY we must be willing to separate ourselves from our sin, even if it is
pleasurable, or makes us feel secure or loved or important, even if others tell
us it’s alright.  Sin separates us from
God and it is only in His presence that we can find His JOY!

I have found this kind of JOY in private and corporate
worship, but only after careful evaluation of my life.  Unconfessed sin is a stumbling block that
keeps us from entering in true worship in the presence of our God.  We cannot experience His JOY without first
accepting His forgiveness, which requires us to admit we need it.  Assuming that we don’t need forgiveness
because we have blinded ourselves to our own sin or to the truth in His Word,
yet still thinking we will be allowed into His presence will only lead to
disappointment.  Proverbs 10:28 says,
“The hope of the righteous brings JOY, but the expectation of the wicked
will perish.”  
This
Christmas, I challenge you to prepare your whole heart for the coming of Christ
not just as a baby in a manger, but for His triumphant second coming as the
King of Kings by cleansing your hands, purifying your heart and living a life
worthy of the forgiveness won for us on the cross.

My JOY letters remind me of all this.  That true JOY is found in the presence of the
Lord.  That JOY is not changed by any
circumstance I am facing on this earth. 
That in order to experience this JOY, I must approach God with clean
hands and a pure heart, washed in the blood of the Lamb, living a life worthy
of that repentance (Matthew 3:8).  That
if my thoughts and actions are in line with God’s desires, I can have JOY no
matter what the world says.

This week, we celebrate our JOY in the coming of our Lord
to earth to show us His way.  At Easter
we celebrate our JOY in the death and resurrection of our Lord to make a way for
us to enter into the presence of God, clothed in His righteousness.  At Jesus’ triumphant return, we who have
lived for Him will see the eternal fullness of our JOY as he gathers us to
Him.  Each day in between we can
experience His JOY by not allowing sin and sorrow to take hold in our lives,
but instead receiving His blessings and living in His truth and grace,
preparing room in our hearts for Him. 

The Gift Part III: Conclusion

If you havent read the first two posts in this three part series, I do suggest you start at the beginning with The Gift and then read The Response before reading today’s post.

Part III: Conclusion

Whenever somebody asks me about my testimony, I get a little bit intimidated because I assume they are looking for that glorious singular instant that changed my life. Sort of like that moment when a man produces a tiny little box and gets down on one knee in front of you, or if you found a small box of a certain blue color hidden under the other presents at the tree. My story isn’t quite so dramatic. Have you ever been sneaky and wrapped up a small prized gift inside many other boxes of increasing size to hide the real present within? Even though I have believed that Jesus is my savior for just about as long as I can remember, I spent a good deal of my life wrapped in layers of entitlement, pride, disobedience, impatience and selfishness. Gradually, I have found that the best way to unwrap myself is to respond to what God has given me in the ways I have just talked about -

by being thankful for all of His gifts and praising Him for who He is,

by doing my best to obey His every command out of love for Jesus and His sacrifice for me,

by using my spiritual gifts to accomplish His purposes, and by striving daily to love others as He has loved me.

That tiny gift under all those layers I will spend a life time unwrapping, is the prize I will receive in Heaven for accomplishing any of the good works He has prepared for me to do here on earth. I’m giddy with excitement each time a new layer is unwrapped because I know I am one step closer to being the woman He wants me to be.

It is our response to His gifts that determines the nature of our relationship with Him. Do we give thanks daily for all He has blessed us with, beginning with our Salvation purchased for us on the cross, and including all things… those as simple as waking up to another day on earth, or as miraculous as the birth of a child, the word, the law, our spiritual gifts and everything in between. Do we show our gratitude by cheerfully sharing His gifts with others? Do we make our faith known by teaching others, discussing His gift when we walk, lie down and rise up? Do we study the story of His infinite love for us? Do we repent and turn away from our sin? Do we daily, or more frequently, ask for and accept His grace? Do we allow Him and His love to rule every area of our lives? Or are we guilty of shoving His gifts into THE closet… you know the one that you would never dare let anyone else open. The process by which we are being made Holy and more perfect is accomplished through our response to the gifts we have received. It is what builds or tears down our relationship with the Giver and with others. This response is the process of sanctification and it determines our reward in heaven. Not our entrance, but our reward.

A story about faithful and evil servants between Peter and Jesus was recorded by Luke in his Gospel. Christ’s message is summed up with the following verse, “For everyone to whom much is given, from him much will be required; to whom much has been committed, of him they will ask the more.” Luke 12:48. Though the passage is about discipline being more severe for those who knowingly disobey God, I think we can apply the same principles to the idea that to whom much love is given, much love will be required. Or the grace we who’ve been given to so extensively are to extend to others. Or wisdom. Or our spiritual gifts. Or any of our other blessings. The more we are given, the more we will be expected to give in return.

A few years ago My mother moved into a much smaller retirement condo … imagine my surprise and pleasure when I walked into the guest bathroom and there on the wall was the gift, all done up with some lovely artificial greenery fitting in perfectly with her cottage themed décor. When my mother hid my gift to her, I was hurt and saddened. A little piece of our relationship was fractured. But when she put it up on the wall for all to see and enjoy, that broken piece was restored. When I shared my excitement with her she said she had finally found a place to put it. Don’t passively wait for time or space to fit God’s gifts in to your life. Make it happen. Be deliberate in your response by giving thanks for all He has given us, praising Him for who He is, obeying His commands, serving all His children and loving Him and others.

I would like to say that after that one heart to heart, I became a perfect parent, but I doubt any one of you would believe me. The truth is I got lazy and worn out, aggravated and short tempered after a couple of weeks. I found that by going back to my kids and recommitting to our new system of clear standards and consequences I could be re-invigorated by their love. God’s love is like that, too. He doesn’t just pass it out as a one time gift. It is the gift that keeps on giving, more prolific than a subscription to the fruit of the month club. When we grow weary, tire of doing good, or stray from the path He has us walking, God stands ready and waiting for us to come to Him to acknowledge our complete dependence on Him, accept His love and forgiveness, and once again restore our relationship with Him. There is no expiration date or maximum number of uses.

When I realize that I am not giving God all He deserves, that He isn’t getting the best I have to offer, or that I am not acting like someone worthy of being His ambassador, I have the opportunity to make it right with Him. Just like I did with my children, I can beg Him to forgive me for all the ways I fail Him and then ask for His help in doing a better job. And He is faithful to meet me right where I am, to dry my tears and point me back toward the cross where His love for me was poured out.

Each time we return to Him and respond to His gifts, we strengthen our relationship with Him. When we pray, repent, meditate on or study His love letters to us, we will find ourselves recharged to respond to His gifts as we “reach forward to what lies ahead” so we can “press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 3:13-14.

My children showed me a symbol of their love with this token that I get to keep and it stirred my soul and motivated me to action on their behalf. If my children can give me a gift that compelled me to respond, how much more should I respond to the perfect gifts from the Father of Lights. Jesus is the gift that changed the world. Will you allow Him to change you?

The Gift that Changed the World

 

The Gift Part II: The Response

If you didn’t read Part I of The Gift, I do suggest starting there before you read today’s post!

Part II: Response

Now that we know a little bit more about the gifts God gives to us all, I want to talk about how we should respond to these gifts.

Several Christmases ago, I found this unique decorative plant holder in an antique shop that I thought my mother would really appreciate. It had pretty metal scroll work and could be hung on a wall so that three circular pieces folded out to hold small potted plants. It was done in a patina color that would go well in her home. I was very excited to give her this gift, because well, let’s face it – she is tough to shop for. I remember my sadness when we traveled back to Virginia perhaps a year or so later and while washing some clothes, I found what I had thought was such a special gift buried under a whole bunch of miscellaneous stuff (junk) up on a high shelf in her laundry room. I was crushed. But I didn’t say anything and vowed to stick to safe gifts from then on, like framed pictures of the grandkids.

When you give somebody a gift, how do you expect them to respond? For me, especially if I have mailed something, I would like to know they received it. Generally, I appreciate some form of thankfulness particularly from those who know how hard gift giving is for me. Then, it is my most sincere wish that they will use what I gave them. How would you feel if you gave somebody a book they never read? Or rules to your children they rarely followed – well, maybe that isn’t so difficult to imagine. What if you gave a friend a GPS, but she continued to get lost? What thoughts would run through your head if you taught someone a skill they never once used? Have you ever been hurt by someone you love deeply whose behavior was less than loving or even downright hateful?

This isn’t just HUMAN nature, God desires a response to the gifts He has given us, too. So, what are we expected to do with what He has given us? It shouldn’t really come as a surprise that the answer to this question is found within one of His gifts to us – The Word. I would like to talk about four key ways we are to respond – with Thanksgiving and Praise, Obedience, by helping others, and in Love.

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The first response is thanksgiving and praise.

The art of thank you notes seems to have fallen by the wayside, but I still enjoy getting them. Don’t you? I once read that if someone gave you a gift that required at least fifteen minutes of their time or was worth $15 or more, you should send a formal thank you note. How much more than that has God given to us? How do you show your appreciation for the gift of eternity that cost Jesus His life? That kind of gift deserves praise unending. We can show our gratitude in many ways – simply by thanking Him daily in our prayers, by singing hymns of worship, by telling others about what He has done for us, and even by making good use of what He has blessed us with which we will discuss a little more later.

Thanksgiving is expressing appreciation for what God has given and done for us. We praise Him for who He is, for His holiness and His unfailing love. If my husband gives me an amazing gift, I will certainly thank him for it and show my appreciation, but I am probably also going to tell all my girlfriends how kind and thoughtful and generous and loving he is. That is also how we should respond to God’s precious gifts to us. We should shout for joy to anyone who will listen how awesome is our God. Psalm 95:2-3 say “Let us come before His presence with thanksgiving; Let us shout joyfully to Him with psalms. For the Lord is a great God, and the great King above all gods.” We should thank Him for all He has given us and praise Him for what His gifts reveal about who He is. You could even write Him a good old fashioned thank you note…I think that would be a great way to start off the new year.

One of my favorite origins of the word praise is “Halal”. It means to be clamorously foolish. Think of the way David acted when he danced for joy at the return of the ark of the Covenant to Israel. Chronicles 15:29 says, He was “whirling and playing music.” His attitude was so outlandish that everyone noticed. Not only did he personally respond with thanksgiving and praise, He also “appointed some of the Levites to minister before the ark of the Lord, to commemorate, to thank, and to praise the Lord God.” 1 Chronicles 16:4. He implored the Israelites to “give thanks to the Lord! Call upon His name; Make known His deeds among the peoples, Sing to Him, sing psalms to Him; Talk of His wondrous works: Glory in His holy name.” 1 Chronicles 16:8-10.

Let’s make it our mission to create such a commotion of thanksgiving and praise for God’s gifts that every one notices!

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Being obedient is the second response I’d like to discuss.

Rules may not seem like much of a gift, but receiving God’s love and salvation should make us long to obey His every command. This is part of the sanctification process, as we learn more about His love for us, our desire to obey His every Command should increase, making us more holy. In John 14:15, Jesus tells His disciples that, “If you love Me, keep My commandments.”

I recently received a new techie device for my birthday and it came with a start up tutorial and an owner’s manual. I admit I would like to skip over some of the more tedious instructions, but all of them are critical for optimizing performance, maximizing the capabilities of the machine and its proper function. In life I have sometimes been guilty of selectively choosing the commandments I will and won’t obey or the situations to which they may or may not apply, and I have even tried to dismiss some of His rules as being out of date or no longer applicable to me. Just like my new tablet, though, unless I follow ALL of the rules ALL of the time, I am not capable of performing at the peak of my abilities for God. Sin will always come back with an error message and until I re-boot, or repent of it, I am not demonstrating my love for Jesus.

God gave the Israelites the 10 Commandments because “through the law there is knowledge of sin.” Romans 3:20. He wanted to show them their sin, to teach them right from wrong, and in so doing, teach them how to be holy. The Israelites were required to keep the law in order to receive their inheritance. Moses pleads with them to respond with obedience and he says, “You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of you house and on your gates.” Deuteronomy 6:6-9 Moses implored them to respond to God’s love with obedience. But time and time again they failed, just like you and I do, to keep the commandments and tragedy came up on them and their land.

Unfortunately, the law was one of those gifts that literally got buried during the destruction of the temple and years of corruption in Jerusalem by kings who “did evil in the sight of the Lord.” When we hear the word of God we should respond like King Josiah did in 2 Chronicles when the high priest found the Book of the Law of the Lord given by Moses during the temple restoration. A great revival began in Israel after its reading. The King tore his clothes when it was read to him and “went up to the house of the Lord, with all the men of Judah and the inhabitants of Jerusalem – the priests and Levites, and all the people, great and small. And he read in their hearing all the words of the Book of the Covenant which had been found in the house of the Lord. Then the king stood in his place and made a covenant before the Lord, to follow the Lord, and to keep His commandments and His testimonies and His statutes with all his heart and all his soul, to perform the words of the covenant that were written in this book.” 2 Chronicles 34:30-31.

The law is still a gift for us today, but He has now given us a more excellent gift – that of righteousness APART from the law IN Christ. Romans 3:21. This doesn’t mean we don’t still need the law, but that through Jesus we may become righteous despite our inability to keep His commandments. We obey His commandments as a response to His love. I challenge you to begin your own personal revival by reading the word and allowing it to penetrate your heart and recommit to obeying the law as an act of love for Jesus.

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The third way we can respond to God’s amazing gifts is by using them to help others.

Please don’t take what I’m about to say the wrong way…I am not claiming any glory for myself when I say my son has a gift for math. Believe me, It has nothing to do with me. If an equation adds up to anything more than 20 I need a calculator and if it mixes letters with numbers you can forget about it as far as I’m concerned. But my boy is great at math. It certainly impresses me when he solves problems in his head or asks me to make him a math worksheet with the BIG numbers. But what is most amazing to me as a mom is when I see him using his gift to help others. When he teaches his brother something or I hear that he has helped another child at school it is absolutely thrilling. Sure, math is a skill or a talent, not a spiritual gift, but the theory is the same. When our Father gives us gifts it stands to reason that He would be most proud when we use them help His other children.

Paul told the church in Corinth that “since you are zealous for spiritual gifts, let it be for the edification of the church that you seek to excel.” 1 Corinthians 14:12 for “spiritual gifts are given for the profit of all believers.” 1 Corinthians 12:7.

I think it can be confusing for us to balance the call to be humble with the command to serve others with our gifts. Nobody wants to sound boastful by shouting out how wise or hospitable or what a great leader they are. Yet we are told with certainty that we have all been given gifts and we should put them to use for the kingdom of God. Romans 12:6-8 says, “Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, let us prophesy in proportion to our faith; or ministry, let us use it in our ministering; he who teaches, in teaching; he who exhorts, in exhortation; he who gives with liberality; he who leads, with diligence, he who shows mercy with cheerfulness.” The key to maintaining your humility while putting your talents to use is acknowledging their origin and giving God the glory for all you achieve.

Before I even knew it to be one of my spiritual gifts, I was using leadership in my role in the Army. But I wasn’t using it for His glory or for His Kingdom. I was using them for me, my success, my pride. Though I was quite good at what I was doing, I often felt unfulfilled at that time in my life. After much prayer, discussion with my husband, and spreadsheet analyzing, we decided I would leave the military for a variety of reasons. The desire to be in the Army and serve my country had been such an integral part of my identity for 20 years made it one of the hardest decisions of my life. Hindsight being what it is, however, I can see that among other good reasons it allowed me the opportunity to reevaluate my gifts and my purpose. Now, 7 years later, I have found a way to use them for kingdom work here at PWOC and that has been undeniably fulfilling.

Once you have taken the first step and identified your spiritual gifts you should know that He intends for us to use them to serve His people and glorify His Holy Name. In Paul’s first letter to Peter, he reminds his protégé that “As each one has received a gift, minister it to one another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.” To stifle these gifts behind a veil of humility cheapens them and indicates to God that you don’t want what He has offered you. What if our praise and worship leader tried to hide her gifts of worship by saying she didn’t think she was good enough or didn’t feel ready to sing and play in front of us – we would all be denied the amazing time on Tuesday morning where she helps us draw near to God and prepares us for the day’s study. Now that you have an idea of what your gifts are, I urge you to think of a way to put them to good use in your home, your neighborhood, the church you attend, even to serve your sisters in Christ at PWOC or any other bible study group you belong to. Find a way to use what God has blessed you with to point others toward Him and His love for them. Acknowledge Him as the giver of your gifts at every opportunity and maintain a humble heart by glorifying His name.

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The final response is one that trumps all. Paul writes in 1 Corinthians 13:2 “And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.” Love is the response that He desires above all others. It is the greatest gift we can receive or give. Anything we do for others should be done in a spirit of love. No matter what your spiritual gifts are, or how you use them to minister to others, if we don’t offer all we have in love it lacks eternal value.

If God’s love expressed through Christ’s death on the cross for our salvation is His greatest gift to us, leading others to accept it is the most awesome way we can express our love toward them. We love because He first loved us. And “if God so loved us we also ought to love one another” 1 John 4:11 . When we receive His gift of love, we are called to share it, to pass it on, to regift it to ALL. This response is how we will be known as His disciples, by our love for one another.

Love is also the fulfillment of the law because if we do all things in love we will avoid sin. If we love others with a pure heart, we cannot help but keep the law. If you “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul, and with all your strength” Deuteronomy 6:5 and you also “love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:37) you will keep the Law completely.

Why do I bother with the stress of gift-giving for holidays or birthdays or special occasions? To show people that I love them. God’s motive for giving to us is the same, but His love is perfect, not motivated by any reward or His own gain, but ours alone. It is a selfless love and it goes against all human nature and cultural norms to a place where we put the needs of others before our own. Loving this way is HARD. It is the kind of love Christ showed for us when he freely took the punishment for our sins upon himself. The kind of love that offers an only son up to be the savior of the world. And Jesus tells his apostles that “Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.” John 15:13 And He goes on to say that we will be His friends if we love one another as He commands us.

When you are motivated by His love to act, you will find that giving of yourself, your time, you talents doesn’t really feel like a sacrifice. If we allow ourselves to be so led by God’s gift to us of the Holy Spirit that we can’t possibly think of doing things any other way than in, by and through His love, our sacrificing and loving and giving to others won’t seem burdensome. Don’t let “Walk Forward in Love” simply be a catchy slogan for our theme this year. Instead, strive each day to move closer to the cross by loving others as God would in response to His gift of love to us. Be patient, kind, generous, humble, polite, seek good for others, rejoice in the truth, hope and endure all things knowing God’s power is sovereign.

The Gift

Who has finished their Christmas shopping?? I’m not even close!! I don’t know about you, but this time of year is stressful for me. My Love Language is definitely not gift giving. Both times my husband I have done the quiz in the book, it has come in dead last. Thankfully, it isn’t his language either. Regardless of what our love language is, we have all received gifts at one point or another. I’d like for you to think about the best gift anybody ever gave you for a moment. What did it mean to you? How did it make you feel? Was it something useful the giver knew would be helpful to you? Or an item they thought you would really enjoy having or eating or reading. Did receiving it bring you feelings of joy or thankfulness? Did the gift cause you to act in a certain way toward the giver or toward others??

Now, I’d like to take to tell you about one of the best gifts I have ever received. It is a golden plastic medal on a red, white and blue ribbon. It wasn’t expensive or particularly beautiful, at least not to anybody but me. I can’t eat it and its purpose is not tangible. But what it symbolizes to me makes it priceless.

Medal

Back last May I was feeling scared about having my boys home all day every day for the entire summer. I had become a little crazy and was screaming around the house more than I was comfortable with. Truth be told I was somewhat frightened my neighbors could hear me through the walls. I knew enough to ask for prayers and even snatched up a book called “She’s Gonna Blow,” which seemed to pinpoint how I was feeling. A particularly wise friend took the time to really listen and talk to me and made a suggestion about how to start mending the situation. Let me first tell you that her recommendation was tough to swallow. She wanted me to apologize to them… What mom wants to ask for forgiveness from her children???

What happened on my couch that afternoon not only changed my relationship with my kids, but it has also helped me understand God’s gift of love and salvation in ways I had not fully comprehended before.

I sat my boys down when they got home after school and told them I didn’t like how I had been acting. That I was sorry I had become such a screamer. That they deserved better from me. I asked them to forgive me and then I asked them for their help in establishing a new way of doing things around the house. There were a lot of tears and hugs and “I love you’s” shared, but then my babies gave me this medal. They said it was for me “to keep” which if you have small children, you know how huge that is. They told me I was the best mommy in the world. In that moment I felt love and forgiveness in a way that I had forgotten could be so powerful. I was motivated by their gift to me to be the kind of mother my boys truly deserve.

In the months since, I have spent a considerable amount of time contemplating how what happened with my children that day is similar to the experience we have when we humble ourselves before our God, sincerely repent of our sin and accept with open arms all the gifts He has prepared for us.

“For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16

Love

“For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast. For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God has prepared beforehand that we should walk in them.” Ephesians 2:8-9

Jesus Word

“For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 6:23

Cross

God gave us Jesus – for keeps – By accepting and believing in Him as our Lord and Savior, we also have eternal life with Him in Heaven and all the joy and hope and freedom that comes with that. When we acknowledge our sinfulness, ask for His forgiveness and declare our need for a savior, He gives it even more freely than my children did. This is the gift that changed the world.

Do you remember how you felt when you first received this most precious gift? Did you make a spectacle of yourself gushing over it like a toddler’s handmade gift that is soon buried in a pile on your desk. Did you mumble a polite “thank you” and then too quickly hide it in the bottom of your closet like a holiday sweater from Grandma you were too ashamed to wear? Did it get misplaced in the junk drawer like so many unused gift cards? Maybe you sent a sincere thank you, but you have stowed it safely away in a cabinet like wedding china, only to be taken out on special occasions. Perhaps you wear it proudly every single day as you would a precious necklace from your husband.

Possibly you are still waiting to take hold of the gift. Maybe you don’t feel like you deserve it yet. Or you think you need to be able to recite all the books of the bible in order or the names each of the prophets, or be giving a certain percentage of your money to the church to receive His love. God’s gift of salvation doesn’t work like lay away. He isn’t going to check your credit or hold on to the gift until you have made all the necessary payments. The price was paid in full by Christ on the cross, we don’t even owe any interest. He simply requires that we humble ourselves before Him, acknowledging our own sin and unworthiness and receive His love and sacrifice with open arms.

God is not an “Indian Giver” either. He will never take back what He has given in love for our salvation. Nothing can separate us from the love of God. Paul wrote to the early Christians in Rome that “neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing shall be able to separate us from the love of our God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:37-39 It is because of His great unfailing love for us that He gave us the matchless gift of salvation through His Son and nothing that has happened, is going on right now in your life or will ever take place would cause Him to take it back.

Once we believe and accept this first Gift, He is anxious to shower all of us with even more….

The Word

2 Timothy 3:16 “All Scripture is given by inspiration of God and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly prepared for every good work.”

Blessings Bible Wisdom Jesus Spirirtual Gifts

He gives us the Bible and all that is contained within it as a guide for our lives. This is His love story to us.

Wisdom

James 1:5 “If any of you lacks wisdom, let Him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him.”

If we ask Him for His wisdom He never fails to deliver.

The Law

Deuteronomy 5:22 “…And He wrote them on two tablets of stone and gave [The 10 Commandments] to me.”

A set of rules may not be at the top of your wish list this year, but it gives us direction and helps us avoid sin. The more we learn about it the more it should shape our thoughts and actions.

The Holy Spirit

Acts 2:38 “Then Peter said to them, “Repent and let every one of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins; and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.”

Dove

Holy Spirit’s presence in our lives serves as a guide for us. If we fully tap into this resource, we can walk confidently along the course God intends for us.

Blessings

Psalm 85:12 “Yes, the Lord will give what is good and our land will yield its increase.”

Every good thing we enjoy in this life has been provided for us at His good pleasure.

Spiritual Gifts

1 Corinthians 12:4-11 “There are diversities of gifts, but the same Spirit. There are differences of ministries, but the same Lord. And there are diversities of the activities, but it is the same God who works all in all. But the manifestation of the Spirit is given to each one for the profit of all: for to one is given the word of wisdom through the spirit, to another the word of knowledge through the same Spirit, to another faith by the same Spirit, to another gifts of healings by the same Spirit, to another the working of miracles, to another prophecy, to another discerning of spirits, to another different kinds of tongues, to another the interpretation of tongues. But one and the same Spirit works all these things, distributing to each one individually, as He wills.”

Do you know what your spiritual gifts are? If you have never taken a spiritual gifts test, I urge you to take one like the one from the Fuller Institute found at this link. We all have them, so why not find out what God has specifically gifted you with. Quickly answer each of the questions with your first instinct. Please don’t over-think your responses. Be honest with yourself, too. Don’t answer the questions the way you think you should or according to what you think you ought to be doing. Answer for what you actually do right now, or have done in the past.

Once you finish, tally up your results according to the directions there. Just a little bit of math required. Don’t be discouraged if your scores aren’t high. Use the results as a guide to pray for ways to use and gain experience with the gifts for which you showed some propensity.

Tomorrow I will post part two of this three part series!

What’s in a Name?

It should come as no surprise that I like words. I like to look them up in the dictionary, thesaurus and my bible concordance. I like to know what they mean and where they originated and how the original language differs from subsequent translations. Words excite me.

Names are really just words, too. Only names are even more fascinating because they can identify family heritage and describe a person’s character. Think of all the different titles you might use to describe yourself….mother, sister, daughter, friend, teacher, artist, chef, Christian, Army Wife. What do they say about you? Proverbs tells us that “A good name is rather to be chosen that great riches. “ Proverbs 22:1 Our character sometimes determines the names we might be called. Our names categorize us with other like people and we either intentionally or unintentionally become representatives of that group. So not only should we want to choose a good name for ourselves, we should also strive to be worthy ambassadors for any group or family by whose name we are called.

In the bible, Jesus is referred to by over 200 different names. Those names reflect His nature, His position as part of the trinity, and the work He has done and will do. He is the Servant, the Son of God and the Sacrifice. He is the Light of the World, The Son of Man and the Redeemer. He is Lord, Immanuel, and our Indescribable Gift. According to Revelation, there is still a name for Jesus we won’t learn until He comes again. John describes his vision of Christ on a white horse and tells us that, “He also has a name written that no one knew except Himself.” Revelation 19:12 No matter how we strive to know all we can about His character, the depths of His wisdom and love for us will remain a mystery until we see Him face to face.

It is by His name alone we are saved and it is His name we are to exalt and place our trust in above all others.

 

Nor is there salvation in any other, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved. Acts 4:12

Oh magnify the Lord with me and let us exalt His name together. Psalm 34:3

And those who know your name will put their trust in You. Psalm 9:10

I have been searching for an advent calendar that really spoke to me for several years. Something more meaningful than the little windows with chocolates, but I’ve been unsuccessful until a couple of weeks ago. Searching on line, I had seen several formats for the names of Jesus advent projects – ornaments, strips of paper and chains or bags with small gifts in them representing the different names from the very talented ladies at My Growing Home and I Am Momma Hear Me Roar. Then I was struck by some inspiration to make an open backed frame to hang on the wall with numbered cards for each day on one side and different names for Jesus and their bible reference on the opposite side. So, each day in advent you would reveal another name and learn a little more about the Alpha and Omega.Advent Calendar

Combining my crafting skills and my power point skills, I turned it into a workshop at My Messy Desk last Wednesday I had 15 ladies here making their own advent calendars. And a handful who wanted a take away kit so they could make theirs at home. 20 or more ladies interested in learning more about the King of Kings with their families this advent. What an amazing blessing!

Since this was such a popular craft, I decided to offer the tutorial and the power point presentation that make this project easy to duplicate for any of my friends around the globe as an instant download file on ETSY. I hope you will visit my shop and consider taking time to create this heirloom keepsake for your family.

For whoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved. Romans 10:13

That’s Ingenious

We’ve all heard phrases like, “Why mess with a good thing?”, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.”, and “Maintain the status Quo”. In the Army a popular one is, “Don’t reinvent the wheel. Let’s face it, most of us enjoy sticking with the norm and we’d be happy with very little change in our lives, unless of course that change involves winning the lottery. Yet we often read about how survivors use everyday items in less than ordinary ways In order to make it out of harrowing circumstances. This is why ingenuity is one of the twelve characteristics I’ve been studying. How can we as Eternal Survivors apply this principle to our daily lives?

In the days of Moses, God gave His people the Israelites The Law. It was an incredibly detailed list of do’s and don’ts filled with requirements and stipulations that must be kept in order for His chosen people to enter heaven. There is a reason that most people shy away from the books of Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers and Deuteronomy. However, to gain some perspective on the Jewish culture and their resistance to Jesus as the Messiah it is a fascinating read.

The Israelites were never able to keep up their end of the covenant. Punishments for infractions and failures to abide by the commandments God gave to Moses were and still are severe, “for the wages of sin is death” Romans 6:23. In the time of exile from the Promised Land, the Israelites were suffering the punishment for centuries of sinful behavior and their failure to repent and believe what was prophesied. God knew that without proof of their own inability to keep the covenant, without proof that He was faithful to His promise by upholding their punishment, without of His mercy by saving a remnant to tell the story, without numerous displays of His mighty power of deliverance, His people would be unable to grasp their desperate need for His most ingenious idea, a once and for all sacrifice that all might live eternally, His Son Jesus. Only it wasn’t new to Him, it was God’s plan from the beginning of time.

The Jewish people expected their Messiah to come as a powerful King and to dominate over and deliver them from their enemies. What they got was a man mostly like any other who simply died to save the entire world from the enemy - sin.

When He began teaching, much of what He spoke seemed contrary to their traditions, cultures and The Law. For these people, it became very hard to understand that Jesus was fulfillment of the law. That believing in Him and His sacrifice on the cross was enough for them to be viewed as righteous before God. That loving God and others was all that was required, not sacrifice, circumcision, or ceremonial cleanliness, not religious festivals, what they ate or the amount they tithed, not even their family lineage, cultural affiliation or adherence to the interpretations of the law by religious leaders of the day. But that loving your God with all your heart and all your soul and all your mind, and loving your neighbor as yourself was enough. It is still a hard concept for us to grasp today as we sometimes wrestle with the idea of works based faith.

If you have accepted Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, you have begun to think outside the box already, but to live a life worthy of the title of Eternal Survivor, you must continue to break the mold we humans have been set in. The attitude of the heart supersedes any and all works we perform both in secret and before men, both good and evil. Unfortunately, the natural attitudes of our sinful nature are unworthy of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. So we must deny ourselves and our nature if we wish to draw closer to Jesus. This goes against most of our cultural norms today.

Much of what Jesus preached was highly controversial during His lifetime. He threatened the Jewish leaders of the day by calling them out as hypocrites. He challenged the idea of social status by serving those who were sinners. He defied a works-based mentality by preaching love as fulfillment of the law. Though the bible is the most widely read publication in history, many of His teachings still cause deep controversy today. In some cases however, something much more dangerous is happening – a complete disregard for the truths held within. We, as Eternal Survivors must not disregard The Word and the Wisdom God gives us through it, we must live it out daily… and that means living our lives in a way that is set apart from how the rest of the world lives. We must live with the ingenuity of Jesus. Eternal Survivors are called to give our lives to Jesus, to love our enemies, to be humble, to pray according to His will, to give thanks for our trials.

The world teaches us to look out for number one and that we have to take care of ourselves first. We generally feel like we are entitled to certain things in this life. That we deserve the best the world has to offer – friends, family, money, possessions. Jesus tells His disciples that, “whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it” in Matthew 16:25. There is no life apart from Jesus. God created each and every one of us and we are blessed with our very breath at His pleasure. At any moment our earthly life could come to an end and it will be the attitude of our heart toward Jesus that determines our next step. To give anything less that our whole life for Him, is to deny Him His due. If we love our own life on earth so much that we fail to live for Him, we will lose out on the eternal life Jesus bought for us on the cross. If we enjoy our riches so much that we fail to give to the poor, we are proving that we love our own life more than Jesus. If we enjoy our friendships so much that we never stand up for Jesus to those around us, we are holding on to life as we want it. If we delight in our position or status, but fail to recognize God as the source of all our success we demonstrate how much we value our earthly life.

Yet if we let go of all we hold dear in this life for the sake of Jesus, we will truly find a life worth living eternally in Heaven. What is this life without the promise of the next?

The world is typically governed by a system of justice that demands retribution. The Hammurabi code dictated that an eye for an eye was suitable punishment. In parenting we are told that the punishment should fit the crime. Jesus however teaches us to love our enemies, to pray for those who have wronged us, to turn the other cheek if we have been slapped once, to willingly go the extra mile for those who have demanded our service. He demonstrated grace and mercy by dying on the cross while we were yet strangers to Him and sinners. He loves us even when we are our most unlovable selves. By imitating Him in this, we will show the world that we are different. By forgiving those who sin against us and allowing God to provide our justice, we show our enemies that He is greater than any hurt we face. Those who harm us, sin against God and He says vengeance is Mine.

It is easy to love those who love us, but even those who don’t know God care for those that care for them, so this does not set us apart. Living out the life of an Eternal Survivor demands that “you love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use your and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven.” Matthew 5:44-45.

There is more at stake that our pride when we hold a grudge against who have wronged us. Jesus says that “if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” Matthew 6:15. In failing to show mercy, we will bring judgment upon ourselves, for we are all in need of forgiveness from our Father. If we show this love and mercy toward our enemies, we open the door to share the love of our Savior with them. If we demand retribution, however justified in our own eyes, we perpetuate evil. Paul tells the Romans, “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” Romans 12:21. This is thinking ingeniously!

The world chases after people who are confident, independent, ambitious, upbeat, charismatic, but this is not what God desires. He blesses the poor in spirit, the mourning, the meek, those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, the pure in heart, the peacemakers and the persecuted, because in the Kingdom of Heaven they will find comfort, fulfillment, mercy, their inheritance and the very face of God. Matthew 5:3-10. Followers of Jesus who are reviled, persecuted and accused falsely by the world for His sake are to rejoice and be glad for they will have a great reward in Heaven. Matthew 5:11-12 Eternal Survivors must be more of what God seeks and less of what the world looks for. We are to take what the world sees as weak and ordinary and allow Jesus to use us in an extraordinary way for the Kingdom of Heaven. We are to be humble.

The world does not usually reward humility, especially in the work place. If you aren’t tooting your own horn, you are usually overlooked. This was certainly true when I was in the Army but even now as part of the stay at home mom crowd, I see a lot of one-up-manship fueled by the need to validate ourselves by what we are doing for our children and our communities. When we do good deeds or make sacrifices we are not to call attention to these actions in a way that brings honor to ourselves. Jesus warns his disciples not to do their “charitable deeds before men, to be seen by them.” Matthew 6:1. He tells us that those who appear miserable to show the world they are fasting already have their reward found in the approval and admiration of man. Matthew 6:16. If we received our reward on earth from men because we boast about our good deeds and draw attention to our sacrifices, we will be shortchanging ourselves the opportunity of receiving a far greater reward from our Father in Heaven.

In both cases Jesus refers to those calling attention to themselves as hypocrites, because even though they may profess to do good for God, the attitude of their heart is seen by the Creator as they relish the accolades of man. For those of us living like Eternal Survivors, we should have an eternal perspective on our rewards as well. Sure, it is nice to be noticed by those around us, but the reward in Heaven will always trump anything earth can offer. So instead of tooting your own horn, sing praises to God. To combat the world’s idea of success we should “let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests but also for the interests of others.” Philippians 2:3-4

The world finds is easy to pray prayers of petition, asking God to do what we want, to bless our desires and plans. As Eternal Survivors we are certainly welcome to ask, seek and knock, but must temper our own desires with a true thirst for the will of God in our lives. Jesus taught us to pray “Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.” Matthew 6:10. The world wants what it wants and if it doesn’t get it often sees this as justification to accuse God of being unloving. We must instead recognize that what God wants is what is best for us, even when it is painful, difficult or heart wrenching. So, to pray “Your will be done” is an act of submission to God with the full belief that He has our best interests in mind.

Jesus didn’t just teach this principle in empty words, he modeled it in His own prayers. As He prayed in the Garden before He was betrayed, He asked His Father “if it is possible, let this cup pass from Me” Matthew 26:39. He was asking that He not become the object of God’s wrath. Jesus did not want to be separated from His Father. He did not ask just once, but three times using the same words. Each time following up His request with a commitment to God, stating, “Nevertheless, not as I will, but as You will.” Matthew 26:39.

So, when we pray and ask God for a bigger house or a better job, a more loving husband or the blessing of a child or we beg Him to end to a difficult situation or to heal our loved one, we must ultimately accept that if He doesn’t answer the way we want it doesn’t mean He doesn’t love us. It simply means He loves us too much to remove the benefits of sanctification brought about by answering it in His own way. Eternal Survivors must constantly fight the urges of our own desires and learn to want what God wants for us instead.

Giving thanks, praising God and worshipping Him in times of plenty is fairly easy for most of the world. We might even be practiced at counting our blessings as a way of consolation during tough times. Who among hasn’t been told to “Look on the bright side,” or “Look at all the blessings you do have”? But Eternal Survivors should strive for more meaningful worship. We should give thanks for our struggles, knowing that it is through these that God is sanctifying us. Instead of being such good complainers, we should learn to look for the manifestation of hope which comes from holding fast to our faith in trials. Paul tells the Romans to “glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Romans 5:3-4. Each time we endure a trial holding on for dear life to the promise of God, we are encouraged that His they are true. There is nothing better than growing our hope based on the unfailing love of Christ.

James even goes so far as to tell us to “count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have it perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.” James 1:2-4. Living like an Eternal Survivor requires more from us that just praising God for giving us what we want; it demands that we worship Him when we don’t feel like it, that we find joy in the trials that produce spiritual maturity, that we glorify Him for counting us worthy to endure hardships in His name.

Jesus freely gave up His life, knowing what suffering He would endure. He called Peter who vowed to protect Him from death Satan and told Judas to go quickly in His betrayal. He knew saving His own life on earth would mean giving up eternity in Heaven.

Jesus loved and forgave His enemies, even those who placed Him on the cross and pierced His side. He loved them so much He died to give even His murderers eternal life.

Jesus was humble despite His true deity. He came to earth as a carpenter and a teacher. He caroused with sinners - murderers, tax collectors and prostitutes. He never once laid claim to the privileges or honor I often associate with those who have power and authority. He was certainly the most powerful creature walking the earth, but He never once used it for personal gain as many of us would be tempted to do. Instead, of a crown of jewels, He chose a crown of thorns.

Jesus exemplified submission to the Father’s will. He asked three times to be spared from suffering and separation, but insisted that the will of His Father was more important than His own desires.

Jesus gave thanks for the cup which represented His blood that was to be shed during his punishment and death for our sins when He shared the last supper with His disciples. My translation says He “blessed” the bread which symbolized His body that would be broken as He paid the price for our eternal salvation. Matthew 26:26-27 I cannot think of any greater example of praising God for the very harsh circumstances necessary to bring about one’s spiritual completion.

Certainly, Jesus’ life is an example for us to follow, but the lessons about how we should live out our days on earth as His remnant are found quite ingeniously in how He approached His death. So, be different than the world. Don’t allow the way everybody else has always done it be good enough for you. Live the ingenious life of an Eternal Survivor – give up your life to follow Jesus’ example, love your enemies to multiply heavenly rewards, humble yourself so you may be exalted by Christ, find the glory of eternal hope in your trials. How will you think outside the box today?

Cast Your Burdens

I was reviewing the weekly planner I have on our kitchen counter this morning and was struck by the fact that there is one event listed for tomorrow that is completely out of the ordinary: Biopsy 3 pm.

Tomorrow I am having a core needle biopsy done on a lump I found in my right breast. I discovered what felt to me like a squished ping pong ball located in between my breast and arm pit while laying in bed the first Saturday in June. More accurately, I should say the lump in question is actually hiding behind what I felt.

I spent about four days, compulsively feeling the lump to see if it was changing, praying that it would go away and googling the possible diagnoses. As a woman in her late 30s who’s mother’s sister is a breast cancer survivor, who carries a little more weight than she should and has on occasion partaken of more than the recommended amount of alcohol, I didn’t particularly like how my risk factors added up. When I finally decided to have it checked out, after advocating for myself and my desire to not wait a week for an appointment with my PCM, I was seen swiftly. The doctor did his exam and then told me the last time he’d seen a lump this big it was in fact late stage cancer. Not exactly what any patient wants to hear. I was quickly referred for a mammogram. As I waited for the next appointment, I realized that the Great Physician wasn’t going to take this from me, that this, whatever it was, was something He had somehow planned for His glory.

Following the initial read of the mammogram, I was imediately whisked away still wearing the “gown” (I use the term loosly….it is was little more than a transparent paper vest without closures) and cluthcing my shirt and bra to my chest in an attempt to retain my modesty to the ultrasound room through some secret passages hidden in the radiology department. That was a pretty scary moment, as was the one when the head radiologist came in to look at the black and white images of my breast tissue on the computer monitor while he and the tech pointed at “questionable areas” that “come and go”. When the arm I had been holding over my head for what felt like an eternity was finally going numb, he gave me his interpretation…That I had a couple of cysts and what appeared to be a fibro-adenoma hiding behind one of them, and I should come back in three months to see if anything changed. Honestly, this was a huge relief to me at first, because there are quite a few things that a lump in that area could be caused by that are even scarier than breast cancer.

Then, I began to question his dismissal of the finding behind the cyst. Who wants to hear that something is “probably” anything?

When my PCM followed up with me a few days later, he recommended that I be referred to a breast surgeon despite the radiologist’s lack of concern for what he’d seen and I consented. I became a patient of Breast Care Specialists in Shreveport, LA in mid-July with a rushed appointment and ultra-sound that seemed to confirm the diagnosis of a fibro-adenoma. I can’t say I was overly relieved to be told again to come back in three months to see if it had changed. I did however give up caffeine in my coffee and (almost entirely) in chocolate. I began taking the recommended evening primrose, vitamin E and advil to reduce swelling of the tissue around the cysts. It felt good to be doing something, even if I couldn’t notice any change in what I was feeling. I was checking a little less compulsively than before, but still more than most average women explore their breast tissue. I abstained from searching on the internet about my condition and even started to share this part of my life with some women I knew would be faithful to pray for me.

I am not always the most patient person and prefer to be doing something rather than just waiting. So for me, the typical protocol for a BIRADS-3 classification to check questionable areas with mammogram or ultrasound every three months for up to two years, seems like torture. I prayed more often that God would reveal His glory to me in this situation, rather than just cure me. I asked Him to carry me through whatever I was unable to bear. It was in these prayers that my heart became less burdened and my stresses were relieved. He was faithful to guard my heart and mind between apointments as I could only wait.

Throughout this process, I have felt the urge to write about what I was going through, but kept hearing God tell me, “Not yet.” It wasn’t until last week that I truly felt I had something to say.

On Monday I went for my three month follow up with the breast specialist. In the two and a half hour ride up to her office, I spoke with my Aunt and prayed fervently for guidance from God, for Him to give me peace with the situation, to lead me to push the doctor with the right questions, to make it apparent if simply waiting was what he wanted me to do. She did a quick ultrasound and verified that the questionable lump had indeed not grown, which she took as a good sign. I agreed, no growth certainly indicates that what I have is not cancerous. She was “comfortable waiting another 6 months to see if it would change.” However, I after having just endured Breast Cancer Awareness month, couldn’t shake the fact that I wasn’t comfortable waiting 6 more months. So I asked, “What if I’m not comfortable with waiting?” She said then we biopsy. She validated my concerns by admitting that she had been wrong before and confirming that the only way to be certain was to look at tissue under a microscope. I simply don’t want to waste even a second of the next six months wondering or even praying about this. Though I am confident God would have continued to carry me through the waiting, I believe He provided me a way out of this trial.

I am certain biopsy is the right decision and that God guided me to it by prompting me to ask questions. I have very little additional information than I had before I walked in to her office last week, but I have peace. I could still have a very slow growing tumor or pre-cancerous cells lurking under my skin, or it could in fact be perfectly harmless fibrous tissue that will likely dissipate after menopause. I still have questions that will only be answered at my follow up appointment next week, but I know my God is with me and nothing can stand against His promises.

The moment I knew I had something to write about came on Tuesday when our prayer coordinator for PWOC led an exercise where we were asked to write our greatest burden on a 3×5 card and place it on the altar. She urged us just as David does in Psalm 55:22 to “Cast your burden on the Lord, and He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved.” You might think this very real, very present threat to my body, my health, perhaps my life would have been the burden I needed to let go of, but in those quiet moments of contemplation I was struck by the fact that I had already laid this one at the cross, I no longer wrestle with it. Even as relief washed over me in my peace with this, I became buried under the weight of the realization that I am still bearing the entire brunt of other burdens. Ones that are less dramatic, less significant, less potentially life-changing. I was at once encouraged that I am fully willing to cast my cares for my very life upon my Lord and yet shamed that I still allow myself to be encumbered by a load of other cares of this world that have no eternal significance.

God is guarding my heart and my mind in this situation that I (and so many others on my behalf) have prayed about. In this I am experiencing His peace that surpasses all understanding for what is certainly one of the scariest things I have faced in my life, but I won’t be satisfied until I am able to lay all my worries confidently at the feet of Jesus.

Do you have a heavy load to cast upon the Lord? Are you carrying so many small worries that their combined weight is holding you down? Is there one burden you keep taking back from Jesus and attempting to conquer on your own? I urge you pass it off, give it up, lay it down and enlist the help of a few faithful friends to pull you out from under it! Just wait and see how He will sustain you with His peace!

Interference

I just asked Jesus to come interfere in my life. This is quite different from my usual prayers that ask Him to sustain me, support me, help me get through my day as I have planned it. It was part of a journaling exercise for the bible study I am doing this semester from the book “not a fan” by Kyle Idleman. This is a book that will shake you up no matter where you are on your faith journey. For the last two months, it has been challenging, upsetting, angering, convicting, and inspiring all at once, but this exercise from the Journal today brought me to tears. The instructions were to repeat ten times out loud the phrase:

“Lord Jesus come interfere in my life.”

I know it may sound a little silly, but it was powerful. Each time I repeated those seven words, my mind raced with thoughts as I subconsciously emphasized a different word each time. I was filled with so many emotions that by the third time I had to get up and find a tissue as they spilled out in my tears. But even as the tears flowed, I was reminded of the promise that we all have in Jesus. It was in that promise that I found the encouragement to pray these words with my whole heart.

Lord….

Jesus….

Come….

Interfere…

In…

My….

Life…

 

Lord…. King, Ruler. I am your servant. A slave for you. Once under the bondage of my sin, but set free by you. I am now a bondservant, a slave for you by my own choice. You are just and righteous and holy. Knowing that is what makes me want to follow you.

Jesus…. Savior, friend, teacher, intercessor. You gave Your very life for me that I might enjoy eternity with You. Perfect in every way though tempted just as I. Once human now seated at the right hand of the Father. You are coming again to judge and I will only be found worthy by Your blood.

Come…. Come down to me, send your Holy Spirit to guide me. If you are with me, who can stand against? You said if I would seek, I would find You. I’m seeking, Lord, meet me here right where I am now.

Interfere… Mess with it. Shake it up. Change my plans because You have perfect plans for me. Plans to prosper me, plans for peace and for hope. There are things in my life I don’t like…change them for your glory. Make my every move glorify Your Holy Name. Make Your plans obvious to me. Protect me from Satan’s attempts to bring doubt about Your plans for me.

In… Be IN my life in all its messy ugly sadness. Be in the moments of joy and happiness. Be IN my home, my car, IN all the places I go. Be IN my interactions with my husband, my children, family, friends, strangers. Be IN my heart, seal it with Your Holy Spirit.

My…. Not mine but yours. All I think I am, all I think I have are not my own. I do not rule any part of the life I live no matter how hard I try. My life is Yours. My moods, my attitudes, my speech, my actions, my thoughts, my expressions…they are all Yours make them glorify you!

Life… Any life I enjoy is from you. You created me. And I am fearfully and wonderfully made. This life on earth is temporary. You give life and You can take it away at any moment. Your promise of life is eternal. What I do with this life should all be for your Glory, for Your Kingdom. What do you want for my life here on earth, Lord?

“Lord Jesus come interfere in my life.”

When I finished, I was so ready to let Jesus mess with my day that when the phone rang I was almost convinced it was Him calling with some major change my whole game plan. I jumped up and answered the phone with a big grin despite the fact that the caller ID screen said “customer service” I was so ready to tell the person on the other end of the line about Jesus, that I was disappointed to hear a pre-recorded message. Even if He isn’t calling me to some major change to my life, there are thousands of little ways I can let Him interfere. When we allow Him to rule the little things in our lives, we become witnesses to His great faithfulness and love for us. These are the building blocks of a faith able to respond to His glory when He interferes in major ways.

So, I will start the rest of this day looking for ways that my Lord Jesus might come shake up my life. By His power, I am ready and waiting! Will you ask Him to interfere in yours?

FANtastic Wreath

IMG_3607A friend of mine pinned an awesome wreath she found for sale by 1BabyToes1 on Etsy for $45 to one of my Pinterest boards, hoping that we could make it together. To be honest, I put her off for several weeks because I was scared to drill a hole in a baseball… I had visions of it flying off the workbench across the garage and shattering something! All my anxiety was unfounded, because it turns out, it was harder to bend the wire hanger closed than to do the drilling. For those of you who have baseball teams still in the running for the World Series, this might make a super nice gift for your hubby, or something you can do together if he is particular about his power tools. As an added bonus, you can buy all the supplies locally.. yes, even in Leesville!

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What you need:

11 baseballs

1 wire hanger

1 foot of thin ribbon in your team’s colors

1 yard of thick ribbon in your team’s colors (or burlap ribbon like we used)

1 wooden letter to represent your team name (other fonts available on-line and at craft stores)

Acrylic Craft paint in your team’s colors

Acrylic Spray Sealant (any brand will do)

Hot glue

2 pairs of heavy duty pliers

Electric drill with ½ inch drill bit

Scrap wood

Safety Goggles

Paint the letter in your desired color scheme. I recommend doing both front and back and using at least two coats of paint. For dying the front side, you can stick the tall thumb tacks into the back side to elevate the letter and minimize any lumpy paint along the edges. Once dry, spray with the sealer following manufacturer’s directions. Apply at least two coats, drying completely in between applications.

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Wearing your safety goggles, hold the baseball down firmly against the scrap lumber, with your hand shaped like a ‘c’. Starting slowly, push the drill straight down into the ball, until you get the feel of it.. Use an up and down motion to pull some of the cork out of the hole you are creating, or the drill will get bogged down. You will feel a change in pressure when the drill goes out the other side and into the wood. You’ll see, it is so much fun; you might want to do more than just 11, but restrain yourself because if you use more than 11 balls, the wreath will be too big to hold its shape.

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Straighten out a wire hanger and thread the balls on to it. You will probably want to do this part in the garage, as there will be a decent amount of cork that comes out during this step as well. Once all the balls are on the wire, twist the wire closed. This does not need to be pretty, but I do recommend getting any sharp edges tucked in and / or snipped off. You want to get the balls as close together as you can. Using at least one pair of pliers is helpful here.

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With the wide ribbon or burlap, make a bow, going around the twisted ends of the hanger. You can ruffle the long ends of the bow by tucking them between the balls and hot gluing when you get it how you want it.

Finally, depending on the letter used to represent your team, you can make a loop with the thin ribbon to hang the letter from the large bow (as we did with the “C” for Cubs… now you know why I’m not overly excited for the World Series). With some letters that don’t have a closed top (W, H, I, J, K, etc…) however, it will be necessary to glue the loose ends to the back side of the letter, after the ribbon through the large bow.

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Are you for real?

Authentic, genuine, real, true… These are concepts that keep popping up in my life lately. From the bible study I’m doing in PWOC to conversations with friends and, of course, on Facebook. I doubt any of us intentionally plans to give off a vibe of perfection with our comments or posts. I think we are genuinely more comfortable sharing our victories than publicizing our defeats or airing our dirty laundry. But when is the last time you truthfully answered the question, “How are you?” Most often, “I’m great!”, comes out of my smiling mouth as an automatic response. Why is that? Am I so obsessed with keeping up the appearance that I’ve got it all together and under control.

What would happen if I admitted that there are things in my life, beyond my craft desk that are messy, or sad or frustrating, embarrassing, disappointing, worrisome, or even frightening? What if I said that I have a room that’s such a disaster I’m a little terrified to enter it. Yesterday when a friend came over to visit, I closed the door to it, but today I posted a picture of it on Facebook after seeing another post about a pile of laundry waiting to be folded on the guest bed. What I didn’t say was that it has been like that for quite some time. What if I said I had so many clean clothes waiting to be put away that I’ve been getting dressed in the laundry room for several days now. If I admitted to losing my temper with my children on more than rare occasions or that they had pizza two nights in a row this week? What if I told you I have a wardrobe box in the upstairs hall that has been sitting there since we moved here…over a year ago. What if I dared to utter that I’m very self conscious about my body, or reveal that I have clothes in at least 5 different sizes in the my closet because I can’t seem to stay any one of them, and I almost never leave the house wearing a dress without some sort of spanx-like undergarment, even when it’s 104 degrees outside. What if I tearfully confess that I wanted to throw things this morning after a argument with my husband and ultimately gave in to that frustration by flinging a dish rag across the kitchen and then crumpled up on the couch crying. That I let a good friend down because I was wallowing in my own pit of despair over that silly argument that I won’t remember in a month. How would you react if I casually mentioned that I’m tired of the late nights at work and TDY trips that sometimes leave me home alone with my children for days on end. My car is full of crushed cheerios and snack wrappers. The garage is a danger zone. I walked instead of running yesterday and it felt like a cop-out. I have plants I purchased in May that are still in their original (not decorative) pots in the front flower bed. These aren’t the things that I would run to my computer or phone to post on Facebook or text about. Would you judge me or wrap your arms around my neck and cry with me if I revealed my things I prefer to hide?

The truth is life is messy and stuff happens to all of us, not just me. By publishing our highs and burying our flows, we create a false sense of perfection to those around us who are likely struggling under the weight of their own messy lives. God never expected us to be perfect. He didn’t send His son to die for our sins because we are so worthy, but because we are SO flawed and broken. If we aren’t genuine with Him about our need for a Savior, we cannot have the deep personal relationship He wants with us. If we aren’t’ authentic about the good, the bad, and even the ugly with each other, then we are missing out on the kind of close friendship that supports, encourages and strengthens us.

If I don’t know what’s really going on in your life, I don’t know how to pray for you, how to help you or how to love you completely. Loving each other is what He has called us all to do. Jesus says, that next to loving the Lord, loving my neighbor is the most important thing I can do. Matthew 22:39 Paul tells us that love is the greatest gift. That love is patient, kind, and polite. It is not self-seeking, provoked, or evil thinking. That love rejoices in the truth, it bears, hopes, believes and endures all things. “Love never fails.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. There are no exceptions made for the skeletons in your closet, crumbs swept under your rug, or whatever may be shoved behind your bed skirt.

By appearing to have it all under control, we run the risk of scaring off the very people with whom we might wish to bond because, let’s face it, they don’t’ have it all together either. Very little is more intimidating than facing our own flaws when all we see are perfect people around us. The sum of all those picture-perfect moments and PR’s is actually less than the whole. It negates all the blood, sweat, tears, sacrifice and struggle that made it possible to get there.

So, let’s get real with each other. Quit faking our friends out and start living our lives in love, grace, authenticity, forgiveness and trust. Stop taking ourselves so seriously and start sharing a good laugh over life’s misfortunes. Isn’t that what community is all about, growing closer to one another through all kinds of shared experiences wherever we are in life. We might even find out we have more in common with each other than we would have ever guessed.